I'm angered by the way I'm treated after losing weight

I was overweight from about 13 years old until april through to august last year, when I lost a lot of weight, roughly 65 pounds (sw 216, cw 150), and have kept it off since. As a long-legged 5’9” girl who carries weight well, I look slim and strong.

Now, am I glad I lost the weight? Yes, immensely. I’m finally healthy and I feel happy that I’m no longer on the path to being incredibly overweight. And yes, I am glad that I look "thin".

But god almighty do people treat me differently. It’s astounding. And it makes me so deeply angry.

I went from being bullied through all of high school to the point my self-esteem was zero (called ugly and fat behind my back and to my face) to having those same people like and comment on my photos on social media. I went from being completely invisible to men as an adult to being hit on every time I go out, having multiple guys interested and getting a serious boyfriend. I went from being ignored, dismissed and treated slightly rudely by strangers in the supermarket, at the post office etc. to being greeted with a smile, engaged in conversation.

People are MUCH nicer to me at work. I get compliments constantly, when before I never did. I have had people say they wish they had my body, my grandma is proud of me when before she’d criticise my weight.

I just can’t stand how shallow society is. I can’t stand the thought of good, kind, smart and interesting people being lonely, being overlooked professionally and not being able to form relationships, romantic or platonic, because of their size. The way I was treated when I was overweight has scarred me deeply. I have massive body dysmorphia, I struggle to ignore attention because it was something I’d never received, even though I'm in a relationship. I will never fully recover, never fully be confident. It just seems so unfair. I guess all I, and anyone who is going through this can do, is to treat people equally and with respect regardless of what they look like, and NEVER dismiss someone or assume anything negative about them until we know them.

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