Stop telling people they're getting "too skinny" just because you don't know what being at a healthy weight looks like.
I've been 242 lbs for most of my life and basically grew up with obesity. There's no "before" I can look at because I've always seen myself big and that's how everyone else has always seen me as well. I lost 95+ lbs and still going and I never thought I'd be saying this one day but seriously.. I've been getting comments like "you're getting too skinny", "you're losing your curves", "you look like a skeleton", "omg your ribs are showing", "stop before you look unhealthily skinny", "your face looks sunken" etc etc. I'm 5'5, wide hips and narrow waist and I'm 145ish, ideal body weight for my height is between 114-144 which means that I'm perfectly at a healthy weight. Whenever I say I want to get to 132 I get nasty comments back and even in that case I wouldn't be underweight. I wish people stopped! I got shamed for being severely obese my whole life and all I kept hearing was "please look after yourself", "you're getting to a point of no return" and so on. Now that I'm finally and almost at my ideal and goal body weight it's frustrating to keep hearing this. I know I shouldn't mind people's opinions but I got to the point where I'm almost hating the fact that I keep losing weight because all this pressure is making me believe that I look bad now that I've lost weight or that I look unhealthy. People have never seen me like this and I don't get recognized by those who haven't seen me in years but just because I've never looked like this or never been this healthy it doesn't mean I'm sick. Just stop. All the comments like "I bet you're starving yourself" or "do yourself a favor and eat 3 pizzas" are rude and unpleasant to hear. I've struggled with binge eating disorder for most of my life and then I got obsessed with calorie counting, I've never had balance, there's never been an in-between for me and I recognize that's an issue. I grew up hearing comments and judgments left and right even from my own family which means I've grown up believing every single thing I was told and I acted based on what people thought of me. This led to an extreme lack of self love and self confidence. Right now it hurts that I'm not able to enjoy my accomplishment how I would want to because all these people telling me I look like a walking stick are seriously making me want to binge again because I'm convincing myself I look unhealthy. I'm currently losing the last pounds which are the ones that are more noticeable and this means that I'm dropping pant sizes rather quickly. It's literally disorienting for myself because I can't adapt to such quick changes and because I've NEVER seen myself like this and it scares me. Something that I should be proud of is actually turning into a nightmare and the last thing I want is to hear those comments. So yeah. I wish people shut up for once. You never know what someone is going through and I understand that everyone has the right to express their opinion but please, for God's sake, have tact and try to put yourself into the other person's shoes and if you cannot do so just don't say anything at all. Sorry for venting but I needed to let it all out and I'm sure that some of you have struggled with it.
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