Weight loss negatively affecting friendship
What the title says really. My college friend of 20 years is basically ghosting me. At college, she was the slim, pretty one while I was always chubbier. I basically accepted the dynamic and tolerated some passive aggressive comments about my body shape. Still we stayed friends and I was with her through her wedding and pregnancies etc. I didn’t meet my partner until 10 years after she had met hers and we quickly settled down and had children. I was huge while pregnant but I have successfully shed the weight and I also got serious about working out. We went away together for a spa break late last year with other friends of hers and she was very unhappy when her friends commented on my weight loss. I hadn’t seen her in a while at that point. I know she’s unhappy with her figure but she’s still gorgeous and has a lovely life. She is so distant with me and barely replies to my messages. I feel bereft but I know in my heart that she had always been so fixated on appearance, that it bothers her that our dynamic has shifted. Sorry for the long post but I just wanted to know how others dealt with this and is it something you can get past?
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