Mean comments don't sting as much as they used to.
So in my profile on a dating app, I state my political views and essentially say "If you prefer [this view], please swipe left because we probably won't get along." This is because I'm looking for a relationship and I know we probably won't! Today, I matched with someone, who asked me why I felt that way, and I explained. He then began to antagonize me and I said, "Do you use dating apps to be rude to people?" And he said, "No, I don't think politics should be on dating apps. But it's in your profile because your [sic] narrow minded. That's probably why you don't have many matches. And because you're overweight." And then unmatched immediately.
However, before he unmatched, I was angry, but I wasn't sad. You know what my response was? It wasn't to cry or to hate myself. I was typing "I can lose the last 15 lbs it'll take for me to not be overweight, you can't lose your horrible personality."
I realized that even though my weight is still something I'm working on, it's not some horrible dramatic insecurity I can't talk about anymore. Like, do I still wish I didn't have an overweight BMI? Yes, obviously. But do I know that's achievable? Also yes. I've lost 30 pounds. If some ignorant person on fucking Tinder still wants to cut me down, that's fine! They don't have to like how I look, because I like how I look better now, and more importantly, I like how I feel better now.
So basically, fuck 'em. I'm not done yet but I'm a hell of a lot further than where I was in January, I've met tons of men who like my body now, and guess what? I don't love it yet, but I like my body now, too.
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